Whenever I'm in the midst of loss and grief I search for anything and everything to help me help myself. Books, articles, podcasts, therapists, videos, shamans - all the good shit that can help me find the light.
This compilation of resources is just a sample of the "good good" that has helped me through my darkest days. Take what resonates. Leave the rest.
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GRIEVING IN CHOICE by LOSS&FOUND
Contrary to popular belief, we get to be in choice about how we grieve. When my mom was dying...I was sure I would completely fall apart...I mean, that's what grief is! That's what grief does - or so I thought. Truth is, it doesn't have to be that way.
"The process of grief is long, painful and exhausting and, if you remain open to the possibility, can be one of the most powerful and positively life-altering experiences you'll ever have."
STIFLED GRIEF: HOW THE WEST HAS IT WRONG BY MICHELLE E. STEINKE
This Huffington Post article perfectly sums up much of how I feel about what is wrong with the way we approach grief and death in the Western world.
There are expectations of what grief is like and how we think it should look, and then there's reality.
"The reality is you will grieve in some capacity for the rest of your life. Once loss touches you-you are forever changed despite what society tells you."
how to deal with grief Article by Anonymous
Hands down one of the most articulate explanations of grief I've come across, this article was written by an older man to a grieving individual. It pertains to the experience following death but I think it applies to grief no matter the cause.
"As for grief, you'll find it comes in waves...the waves never stop coming...but you learn that you'll survive them."
Rupi Kaur is a renowned poet and author who writes on life and loss in a straight-up, graceful and heart-opening way.
This collection of her poems on loss and love is in particular helpful for moving through grief.
"what is stronger / than the human heart / that shatters over and over / and still lives" - rupi kaur
8 simple words to say when someone you love is grieving by Tim LAwrence
Equally helpful for the bereaved and those seeking to help them, this article gives it to you straight. I personally believe everything does happen for a reason, but Tim does a phenomenal job of driving home why platitudes and "fix-its" regarding grief can be dangerous.
"Some things in life cannot be fixed, they can only be carried." - Megan Devine
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