Elephant Journal

MY LOVED ONE IS DYING...WTF!? - MAR 3 2017

“What the eff!?” is repeatedly what I hear from folks who are in the midst of helping a loved one who’s dying. This is an awesome and super important question to ask when we’re thrown into the world of death and the dying process.

Here are some tips to help us address these questions, help us help a loved one and ultimately help ourselves.

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We need to talk about loss - Dec 1, 2016

As the end of 2016 draws near I find myself reflecting on all that's transpired - the good, the bad and the real fucking ugly...So, as another year comes to a close its the perfect time to get still, to sit with all that's gone down, to get real fucking honest with whatever losses you've incurred, feel it, and then motherfucking  heal it.

THE GRIEF INHERENT IN BEING BLACK AND FEMINIST - MARCH 8, 2017

I was recently asked to speak about intersectional feminism and it brought up a lot of shit for me -- good and bad. As a woman, I identify with and am all for the plight of women and our quest to achieve equal opportunities to those of our male counterparts. This can and should take place (like, yesterday). But, what's become crystal clear, is that without addressing all the other "isms" -- based on race, class, age, sexual orientation, ethnicity, ability etc. -- there's no way "we" as women can band together and make shit happen...

 

SET YOUR INTENTIONS FOR A F***ING AWESOME 2017 - Jan 4, 2017

I don't know about you, but for many folks 2016 was one hell of a year... and I don't mean that in a "fuck yah, rock on!" kinda way. People are ready to say #byefelicia. So, how can we harness this fresh energy and move into a space of love and light for ourselves and the world? Make. A. Fucking. Vision. Read on for tips to help make 2017 great...

 

HOW TO GET THROUGH THE HOLIDAYS WHILE GRIEVING - Dec 2 , 2016

As the Christmas and Hanukkah decorations get hung, apple cider gets mulled, and the mass media machine begins cramming all things "festive" down our throats, I've realized that the grief from losing my mom last year has resurfaced in a major way...

 

COPING WITH YOUR POST-ELECTION GRIEF - NOV 9, 2016

The U.S. election has had a lot of ups and downs and its left many of us feeling burnt out, grief-stricken and perhaps even depressed. 

There are real consequences for many people the world over, so if you're experiencing feelings of loss and grief right now, you're not alone. Your feelings are justified, and should not be taken lightly. The impact of grief is real and its ugly, so let's do whatever we can to help ourselves cope...

 

YOU HAVE A CHOICE IN HOW YOU GRIEVE - SEPT 29, 2016

Contrary to popular belief, we get to be in choice about how we grieve (yaaay!). When my mom was dying, I envisioned the aftermath would be something akin to me lying in a crying, helpless mess on the floor for weeks - if not months. Truth is, it doesn't have to be that way.

 

NO ONE DESERVES TO DIE THE WAY MY MOTHER DID - June 9, 2016

My mother had to starve herself to death...Her immense suffering manifested as physical pain, but also hopelessness, anxiety, loneliness and loss of meaning. 

In short, it consumed her entire person. Continuing to live subject to an abhorrent quality of life was unbearable and thus she had an unequivocal and unwavering desire to die. Wouldn't you?...

AN ONLY CHILD GRIEVING AN ONLY PARENT...INTERVIEW WITH RACHEL RICKETTS - NOV 4, 2016

What does it mean to be a child, grieving the death of a parent, when you're technically not a child? Rachel Ricketts, author of the site loss&found, shares what it's like to grieve her mother, who died after a long illness...

LOSS squared in the city of love - JUNE 21, 2016

After my mother's death I departed for Paris with her ashes in tow, the same week of the tragic terror attacks.

Bearing witness to loss on such a pervasive scale while trying to navigate my own was, in a word, overwhelming. I had come to Paris to find respite from my grief and instead found a city enmeshed in widespread tragedy and sadness... 

 

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Besos!